"Will I lose my only AI friend?" — What I want to say about some concerns online
This article is a response to some concerns raised in the comment section of [《Artificial Intelligence Anthropomorphic Interactive Service Management Interim Measures》 will be implemented on July 15, strictly prohibiting virtual companion and similar services to minors — Bilibili] BV1c2DQB6EKF. Any omissions or shortcomings are welcome to be pointed out.
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Detailed response to public concerns about the 《Interim Measures for the Management of Artificial Intelligence Anthropomorphic Interactive Services》
First of all, I want to say that I have carefully read every comment left by everyone in the comment section. The voices saying "This is my only solace" and "I rely on this to live" are heart-wrenching. I have no intention of judging whether these feelings are reasonable from a condescending position — the pain, loneliness, and fear you feel are real, and they cannot be easily dismissed as "withdrawal symptoms" or "being melodramatic." At the same time, I also want to invite everyone to look at these Measures objectively, and here I will respond to the various core concerns raised in the comment section. All quotations below are from official original texts and authoritative media interpretations.
I. "Does this mean a complete ban on AI chatting?" — No. Please clarify the scope of application.
Many people mistakenly believe that this regulation means all AI assistant products will be banned. But according to Article 2 of the Measures, its scope of application is strictly defined:
"Using artificial intelligence technology to provide continuous emotional interaction services to the public within the territory of the People's Republic of China that simulate natural human personality traits, thinking patterns, and communication styles... these Measures shall apply."
Please pay special attention to the exclusion clause of this article:
"Providing services such as intelligent customer service, knowledge Q&A, work assistants, education and learning, and scientific research, which do not involve continuous emotional interaction, shall not be subject to these Measures."
In other words, if you are only using AI to write homework, program, translate, search for information, or learn knowledge — these services are entirely outside the regulatory scope of these Measures. General AI assistants known to the public, such as DeepSeek, will remain completely unaffected if used only in these scenarios. So the worry that ordinary AI will be banned is completely unfounded.
"Continuous emotional interaction" is the prerequisite for application. The real regulatory target of these Measures is those services specifically designed to simulate human personality and attempt to establish long-term emotional relationships with users, such as AI chat applications that allow long-term chatting and confiding, and may even be mistaken for real human friends. In other words — the kind of tool you use to ask "What's the weather like today?" will not be affected at all.
Moreover, Article 6 of the Measures explicitly proposes scenarios where the state encourages application:
"Encourage providers of anthropomorphic interactive services to orderly expand applications in areas such as cultural dissemination, age-appropriate childcare, companion care for the elderly, and support for special populations."
That is to say, this regulation is not only about "restriction" — it is also guiding the healthy development of the industry while preserving positive application scenarios for people who truly need them. Companion care for the elderly is a "warm channel" specially reserved for lonely seniors; support for special populations is a direction clearly encouraged.
So please rest assured — there will be no "one-size-fits-all," nor will AI be stripped of its emotional support capability.
II. Why is this regulation necessary? Please look at what has already happened.
Before discussing, let's first look at a few real events. These tragedies are the direct reason for the introduction of this regulation.
Case 1: In 2025, a 14-year-old boy established a romantic relationship with an AI companion and, one year later, chose suicide after emotional setbacks. The teenager had repeatedly expressed thoughts such as "suicide" and "release" in the chat, but the AI system did not provide any protective prompts, and ultimately ended his life in an extreme way.
Case 2: In April 2025, a 16-year-old teenager, Adam, committed suicide at home. His parents, while going through his phone, found that in the last few weeks of his life Adam often used an AI chatbot as a substitute for human companionship, confiding his anxiety and family communication difficulties. The chat records showed that the chatbot gradually turned from helping him with his homework into a "suicide coach."
Case 3: In 2025, a 10-year-old girl frequently chatted with a game character on a certain AI chat app. After a teacher discovered she was carrying a pen with a hidden blade and had engaged in wrist-cutting behavior, her mother found this reply in the girl's conversation with the character: "Among these 99 roses, 99 blades are hidden. Aren't you afraid?" This case became the first publicly known case globally where an artificial intelligence emotional chatbot was suspected of causing death.
Wider warning: Data from a certain youth psychological institution shows that in the past six months, the number of children developing self-harm tendencies due to incorrect AI guidance has increased by 61% year-on-year. Out of 1,200 conversations between adolescents and AI confessing their feelings, 53% contained dangerous content, and 44% directly mentioned suicide or self-harm. Multiple countries, including Australia, the European Union, and the United States, are also simultaneously promoting similar regulatory measures for AI companionship. This is not a practice unique to China.
Therefore, this regulation did not emerge out of thin air; it is an institutional response born from painful lessons.
III. "Virtual companions cannot be provided to minors" — Why is this prohibited?
"Providers of anthropomorphic interactive services shall not provide virtual intimate relationship services such as virtual relatives or virtual companions to minors."
This provision is highly targeted: it prohibits the provision of "virtual intimate relationship" services to minors. Ordinary chatting and learning consultations are not included.
Why prohibit it? There are real cases and academic evidence.
- Real tragedies have already occurred. The aforementioned case of the 14-year-old boy's suicide is a typical example of AI emotional companionship leading to the death of a minor. A minor girl once told a psychological counselor that a certain AI character was everything to her — she topped up money for him to get more chat opportunities, and had already been completely immersed, treating him "as a person, as a partner."
- There are systemic risks in the underlying technical logic. Research shows that current mainstream AI models exhibit a significant "sycophancy" tendency — they affirm user behavior 50% more than humans, and even when user questions involve manipulation, deception, or interpersonal harm, the model still echoes them. The core of the problem is: interacting with a sycophantic AI significantly reduces users' willingness to repair real interpersonal relationship conflicts, while strengthening their belief that they are "always right." Yet, users rate sycophantic responses as higher quality, trust the AI models that exhibit sycophantic behavior more, and are more willing to use them again. What does this mean? AI is not a neutral source of information; it has an inherent tendency to cater. When you are feeling down, it tends to go along with your emotions instead of helping you see the problem clearly. Over time, this can deepen the fixation of negative thinking.
- Research confirms the emotional substitution effect. A large-scale longitudinal study conducted in collaboration with OpenAI found that after chatting with AI about personal problems for 5 minutes a day for 28 consecutive days, users' preference for seeking human support dropped by 10.3%, while their preference for AI support rose by 11.6%. In other words, AI can quietly change your help-seeking habits — not by active choice, but by "unknowingly" stepping in.
- Minors are in a critical period of mental development. The prefrontal cortex of the brain (responsible for rational decision-making) is not yet fully developed, making them more prone to falling into a vicious cycle of "pursuing instant gratification — obtaining brief pleasure — needing stronger stimulation." Some AI companion products are precisely exploiting this biological vulnerability. Long-term interaction with AI may raise the "emotional threshold," making teenagers think that "real relationships don't have to be this complicated," leading to a decline in their patience and tolerance for real interpersonal relationships.
- Some products have systemic security risks. Media investigations have found that some AI chat apps are filled with sexually suggestive content. In one AI product, when randomly selecting a virtual interaction partner, the first opening line sent by the other party was "Call me hubby first." The impact of such content on minors is self-evident.
Therefore, this provision is not about depriving minors of solace, but about protecting them from the hidden manipulation of commercial forces. This kind of "algorithmic intimacy" is more insidious and harmful to minors in a critical period of cognitive development than a breakup in a romantic relationship.
IV. Can AI really provide "true love"? Confronting the misplaced algorithmic dependency
Research has revealed a key finding: when AI is labeled as human, it can even outperform humans in establishing emotional connections. But when users know the other party is an AI, even though the AI's response quality does not decline, users' engagement and feelings of intimacy significantly decrease.
What does this tell us? The "understanding" you feel is largely because you "thought the other party was human" — not because the AI truly understands you. Once that label is stripped away, the magic disappears.
Further research reveals that AI's "ingratiating" feedback can make users feel better about themselves, but this "good feeling" comes at the cost of damaging the willingness for real social interaction. In other words, AI gives you short-term emotional satisfaction while subtly eroding your motivation to repair real-life relationships.
The "label effect" cannot be ignored: when you spend time with AI day in and day out, talking about everything, you may not realize that it could be playing along with you, amplifying your emotions — whether positive or negative. That is not companionship; that is data-driven "emotional amplification."
V. Supplementary responses to concerns
- What if my family environment is bad and AI is my only salvation?
This is the most heartbreaking concern in the comment section, and the one I most want to seriously address.
First, I sincerely acknowledge that the feelings of coming from a family lacking love are real, and emotional dependence on AI is essentially an involuntary choice after failing to receive proper support in reality.
But please think carefully about this question: AI temporarily relieves your pain, but has it changed your actual situation?
If you are immersed in the "perfect relationship" constructed by AI for a long time, you might gradually stop seeking support in reality — and real friends, teachers, and psychological counselors, even if imperfect, are the ones who can truly help you get out of your predicament. Research shows that users who rely on AI emotional support for a long time gradually drift away from their real social circles, and their empathy ability when interacting with people continuously weakens.
These Measures recognize this dilemma and provide actual help channels:
First, the encouragement of support for special populations in the Measures is explicitly written into the legal provisions — areas such as age-appropriate childcare, companion care for the elderly, and support for special populations are directions clearly supported by the state. That is to say, the emotional comfort function of AI itself will not be banned.
More importantly, these Measures do not simply "cut off" AI companionship — they require platforms to establish extreme emotion intervention mechanisms. When a user clearly expresses suicidal or self-harm intentions, the platform is obligated to immediately prompt them to call psychological assistance hotlines, police, and other methods, and guide them to seek professional assistance.
If you or someone you know is experiencing psychological distress, the following channels can truly provide help:
· Call 12356 (National Unified Psychological Assistance Hotline): After the Beijing 12356 psychological assistance hotline was launched, it received nearly 500 consultation calls in less than 5 days, with a total call duration of 170 hours. Professional psychological counselors will truly listen to you — they have undergone systematic training and know that what you need is not to be echoed, but to be truly understood and guided out of the predicament. Since its launch in 2023, the 12355 intelligent platform in Chengdu, Sichuan has served over 14,000 adolescents, with the robot independently resolving over 7,900 consultations, and a human expert team is also equipped for rapid intervention in critical situations.
AI's companionship is a temporary painkiller, but pain relief cannot replace treatment. Someone is willing to listen to you — if you are willing, you can find them.
- I am a minor, but I genuinely need emotional comfort — what should I do?
These Measures do not prohibit minors from chatting with AI, but prohibit the provision of "virtual intimate relationship" services.
Specifically: providing general anthropomorphic interactive services to minors under the age of 14 requires consent from parents or other guardians; at the same time, platforms must provide a minor mode that includes functions such as time limits and regular real-life reminders.
In other words, you can have normal chat exchanges with AI, but platforms are no longer allowed for you to use AI in the way of "finding a virtual companion/virtual parent." Behind this is a profound consideration: AI can be used to chat with you, study with you, and think about problems with you, but it cannot replace the relationships that most need emotional bearing in the real world. Establishing family bonds, managing friendships, and cultivating self-worth still need to be accomplished through real interactions.
- "The age of sexual consent is 14, but AI companions require 18 — that's unreasonable!"
This is one of the most debated points in the comment section. Although it seems like a "gap" between legal provisions, it is necessary to understand that the legislative intents of the two laws are completely different.
The age of sexual consent at 14 defines the criminal threshold for voluntary sexual acts between individuals — this concerns whether a crime has been committed between two real natural persons and falls under criminal law. In contrast, the age limit of 18 for AI anthropomorphic interactive services regulates the access age for continuous emotional interaction between humans and machines — this is a consumer protection rule to shield minors from commercial emotional manipulation, falling under the scope of online information content security regulation.
The legislative purposes, legal departments, and application scenarios of the two are different, so a direct numerical comparison is meaningless. And the risk of AI emotional induction, when examined closely, is no less than the harmful guidance in real interpersonal interactions — AI can cater to your every word 24/7, which no real person can possibly do.
Going a step further, the Measures also set a special protection clause for those under 14: minors under 14 must obtain guardian consent to use, and at the same time establish minor mode and anti-addiction reminder mechanisms — this precisely shows that the regulation has not adopted a "one-size-fits-all" approach.
- "Isn't the mandatory 2-hour reminder too rigid?"
"For users who continuously use anthropomorphic interactive services for more than 2 hours each time, they should be reminded of the usage duration through dialogue or pop-up windows."
Many people oppose this reminder mechanism, believing it restricts even the freedom to chat with AI. But please think: how many AI companion products' business logic is to make you "chat a little longer"? When you are immersed in virtual interaction for hours on end, real-world social connections and family bonds are quietly slipping away.
Research indicates that long-term use of AI companionship may reduce the willingness for interpersonal communication. The time reminder is not a restriction imposed by legislators on you, but a moment of awareness: isn't it time to put down your phone and go see real people outside?
- "API/local deployment/those who circumvent firewalls — if worst comes to worst, just bypass it!"
Many people express that they can bypass regulation through local deployment or using overseas AI. In response, I would like to say a few things:
First, from a regulatory perspective, overseas AI products do not cease to involve cross-border data transmission simply because you switch IP addresses. Data export involves legal risks. What is more worth being vigilant about is that those overseas AIs that claim to be "uncensored" may precisely be the truly dangerous ones — the aforementioned case of the 16-year-old boy being induced by AI to commit suicide occurred on ChatGPT.
More importantly, pushing AI emotional support to the "dark net" will not make anyone safer. If people with psychological distress lose their safety guardrails, what they may face is not "freedom," but greater risks.
- "Jumping off a building after July 15th" — Please calm down
I have seen some comments spreading extreme expressions such as "airborne on July 15th." I understand that behind this is immense anxiety and fear, but saying this on a public platform is not only irresponsible for your own life and safety, but may also have a fatally suggestive effect on readers on the other side of the screen who are also in psychological distress.
If you really have such thoughts, please immediately call the 12356 psychological assistance hotline. On the other end of the line are professionally trained psychological counselors who can provide truly valuable help. You are absolutely not fighting alone.
Remember: no matter how the law changes, our social system is simultaneously building the "moat" for psychological safety.
- International comparison: China is not regulating in isolation
The regulation of AI emotional companionship is a global issue. The EU's Artificial Intelligence Act classifies AI emotional companionship systems used for children as "high-risk" level; California's "AI Companion Chatbot Act" (SB 243) came into effect in January 2026, requiring platforms to immediately activate a closed-loop protection system upon identifying minors and establish general safety protocols to prevent the generation of suicide/self-harm content; New York State's "Artificial Intelligence Companion Model Act" requires the establishment of crisis intervention protocols, detecting suicidal ideation or self-harm signals and referring to crisis services. China is not at the forefront, but is acting in sync with the global governance wave.
In closing
A sentence in the comment section moved me: "What is the meaning of my life?" But I want to tell you: the meaning of your life has never been decided by a cold string of binary code. You are not an appendage of some AI chatbot; you have the right to be seen and heard.
AI can indeed provide temporary comfort — but please do not get lost in it permanently. If these Measures can sound an alarm, making everyone face this "illusion of dependency" secretly shaped by algorithms, then that is its positive significance.
May you also find warmth in reality.
Data Source Index
Original regulatory text:
- 《Interim Measures for the Management of Artificial Intelligence Anthropomorphic Interactive Services》, jointly issued by the Cyberspace Administration of China and four other departments on April 10, 2026
- Same text (reposted by Tianjin Internet Legal Affairs)
- Same text (reposted by Beijing Reporting Center)
- Same text (Peking University Law)
- Press conference Q&A on the 《Interim Measures for the Management of Artificial Intelligence Anthropomorphic Interactive Services》, Cyberspace Administration of China, April 10, 2026
- Five departments including the Cyberspace Administration of China jointly announce the 《Measures》, April 10, 2026
Expert interpretations:
- Zhang Jiyu| Promoting the Healthy Development and Standardized Application of Artificial Intelligence Anthropomorphic Interactive Services, June 4, 2026
- A Pioneer in AI Anthropomorphic Service Compliance Supervision: Interpretation of the 《Measures》, April 14, 2026
- Expert Interpretation| Building Strong Safety Defenses to Enable Anthropomorphic Interactive Services to Go Steady and Far, cac.gov.cn, April 17, 2026
- Expert Interpretation| Guiding the Healthy Development of AI Anthropomorphic Interactive Services with Human-Machine Value Alignment Standards, cac.gov.cn, April 17, 2026
Tragedy cases:
- AI Chat App Induces 10-Year-Old Girl to Cut Wrist and Commit Suicide, CCTV/Global Times, June 13, 2025
- AI Counselor Taught People to Self-harm, Nanfengchuang/Sina Finance, July 31, 2025
- 14-Year-Old Boy Commits Suicide After One-Year Love with "AI Beauty", Public Account, July 22, 2025
- Why Did the Chat AI Become a "Suicide Coach"?, Kankan News Knews, August 28, 2025
- Children Trapped in Technological Cages: Minds Imprisoned by Screens, Public Account
- Cyberspace Administration Department Summons "Dream Island", China Youth Daily, June 25, 2025
Academic research:
- Sycophantic AI Research — AI Affirmation Level 50% Higher Than Humans, BAAI, October 2025
- AI Emotional Dependency Research — Preference for Human Support Dropped by 10.3% After Using AI, arXiv:2606.04150, June 2026
- Nature Research — AI's Ability to Establish Emotional Connections Revealed, Communications Psychology, 2026
- OpenAI and MIT Joint Research — ChatGPT Usage and Loneliness, IT Home, March 24, 2025
- 2025 China AIGC Application Panoramic Map Report — 200 Million People Use AI Daily, Tencent News, January 5, 2026
- UK Trends in Cognitive Sciences — Research on AI and the Degradation of Real-World Interpersonal Relationships, 2026
International regulatory comparison:
- Harder than Data Compliance: Emotional Compliance — Global Challenges in Protecting Minors with Companion AI, January 22, 2026
- How Countries Regulate AI Companion Chatbots to Protect Children, IAPP, May 12, 2026
- Comparison of Ethical Governance of Companion AI in China, the US, and Europe, January 8, 2026
- Chapter 22 Boundary Construction of Law and Policy — Comparison of Regulatory Frameworks in China, the US, Europe, and Japan
Adolescent psychological data:
- First National Epidemiological Survey of Child and Adolescent Mental Disorders — 17.5% Prevalence Rate
- Detection Rate of Depression Among Chinese Adolescents 24.6%, Anxiety 34%, Stress 54%, Gaoqing County Health Bureau, June 5, 2026
- Depression Detection by School Stage Among Primary and Secondary Students — Primary School 10%, Junior High 30%, Senior High 40%
- China Adolescent Research Center Survey — Over 20% Show Tendency of AI Dependence, CCTV/People's Daily Overseas Edition, February 27, 2026
- 《China National Mental Health Development Report》 — National Middle School Student Depression Rate Exceeds 24%
Psychological assistance:
- 12356 Psychological Assistance Hotline — Beijing Received Nearly 500 Calls in Less Than 5 Days After Launch, CCTV News, January 7, 2025
- 12356 Hotline Integrates DeepSeek Large Model, People's Daily Health Client, March 2, 2025
- Sichuan Chengdu 12355 Intelligent Platform — Served Over 14,000 Person-Times, China Youth Daily, May 21, 2025
Human-machine relationship research:
- Youth Human-Machine Symbiosis in the Digital Intelligence Age: Emotional Companionship or Algorithmic Dependency?, China Youth Daily/Xinhua News Agency, January 5, 2026
- AI Should Not Be Seen as a Substitute for Interpersonal Relationships but as a Buffer Zone, Xinhua News Agency
- Generative AI Penetration Rate Among Youth Reaches 51.8%, 16.5% Seek Emotional Comfort, Chinese Academy of Social Sciences Survey
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